Some conclusions or looking back... and smth else.

Hi, yeah Im being very 'productive' as of late lol :P

I was just backing up the blog and thats why had to go quickly through all posts I made so far and thought would be good to make some conclusions from all that stuff described below...

~ For people who are interested on update with AAOF ( Ale Ambrosio official forum) described in my first posts here.

Well, as I already said , yes technically I can post there but I dont post as much and actively as I used to ( more on that as I said in my first posts)- it just NOT the same anymore- obviously. Not only for me, for all. Yes, still same admins, 'elected' by members a new moderator who promised to 'make it better and as it was before' ( but it still isnt ! lol)...admins dont post as much as they used to either. Props and kudos for them for trying to 'make things better' this way or another, but it seems like 'someone even higher' had a 'nice talk' with them- ether way, they dont post much on forums they manage. Quiet, quiet, quiet. Old members and almost all those who used to be a cool friendly active member company dont post as much either, if at all. As I said, me included. I just dont feel like it, its dead. Sorry, Alessandra, but even my liking for you cant save it. I wish you all the best though. But forum is...just not as good as it was and thats a fact confirmd by many members.

~ For those interested on update with BZ. ( maaan I have quite a list here already lol...oh well)

Yes, Im apparently 'banned for ever' ( for NO reason at all ) lol - more on that in my earlier posts, all whys and how it turned like that. Yes, even 'banned from guest viewing' as well lol ( woohoo, fear me, fear me, Im aweful ! gosh, this is truly sad and ugly from the side of bz.), but as I said I have a way to still now and then check it.

'Miss Pinks' aka PC is still as fakey-super-dooper-nice as it can get ( of course!) and all is same and rotten in 'her queensland' there.

Naive people are still naive ( or just d***) and eat all they are served there and I truly wish them to not wake up and see the reality.

---> I dont feel like posting on AAOF and Im sorry but I dont feel like posting even on my all time fave model's official forum- fashionmodeltalk ( sorry Marisa, but IF you have a chance to read at least a bit, youll learn why and I know youll understand and agree.) ( please say 'thank you' for that to PC, the goal is reached.). Certainly Im supporting all my faves just in one place - which is nice and friendly, my own forum, I understand more and more that me and other guys n girls made a great decision when we created it. No more shabby admins, no more unfair moderation, no more banning just so...it feels just soooo AWESOME ! Truly a relief.

~ Yeah well and tFS...Ill post on it later....But I can say, that if Im gone from there, Im afraid MM thread and BM thread in particular will be back to being dead again.

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Let me see, Ive been to quite a bunch of forums (big ones) and must say that:

1. The only treasure that all the forums have is those few intelligent, caring, active, so-called 'quality' members. Those members who not only spend much of their personal time posting but post and contribute great stuffs to the forum and keep a good atmosphere too. Who are 'loyal' to the forum.

2. Follows from the above, too often Forum management (staff, admins, mods...) forgets that its not them (or just them) but members are the ones who keep the forum active and lively and add to its pictures, videos and etc. And treat members poorly sometimes for no reason. As an admin myself ( I guess Im like a mammoth - there are hardly such ones these days for whom 'being impartial, fair, respectful and professional' is not just words.)I know and understand how it sometimes annoys if members dont read rules ,etc. but then theres a reason to give a warning or a reminder and not just so !

3. Almost noone cares much. Sadly.Why do I ? I mentioned that too already. First, I value my personal time and of course if I invest so much of my time for contributing good stuffs to a forum, naturally that I do care, its my time and efforts after all too.And then, what can I say, Im into models and fashion for a loooong time now and whether I want it or not , there will be such 'shabby cases' in forums , noone is protected against it. The only way not to go through it as I did is not to post on ANY forum at all but I cant, I need my models fix ( therefore I created my own little but nice forum !!!). And most members dont care about stuff I describe here until it comes to their home. Only if it happenes to a member himself, until then yeah, there are hardly any who care much - sadly, sadly ! And you know, they say 'informed - means protected'.

4. Not all admins/mods can handle the 'given to them privileges' to be able to edit posts, ban, delete posts, etc. Its very tempting to use it just to....(show that member that I am the one with the power; punish that girl who is prettier then me; you name it !) and not because there is really anything 'against the rules'.

5. Follows from the above again, members, please, remember, that Forum Rules in many forums are NOT made for ALL. No. They are not for all. If youre lucky ( that is, not cuter/more clever/popular/etc.etc.etc. then admin or a mod) then youll be the one who may not follow the rules. cause you are 'good girl' or a 'good boy' and its okay if you dont follow the rules.Well, and if you get unlucky....you may be banned just so, your posts may be deleted just so and the rules are made juuuuust for you. Not for other member and of course, not for staff. ( again, this is not the case in my forum, ask my mods, I even tell them straight too if I see they do smth 'against rules', inspite of any friendship or likeness. I hope there are still a few more then just my forum where rules are really made for ALL).

6. Of course models have a busy busy life...but imagine if our fave models knew what we have to go through to support them !!!!...Or, what kind of 'forum staff' manages their forums...

And a story. A friend of mine (after I told him about my blog and all that) told me today, that one member in a forum where he is also a member ( it has nothing to do with models or fashion tho), so that member recently joined and started to post and contribute much and very passionately ( hehe, I said then that ooooh bro I can understand her lol) and the other day she started a thread and as a title she wrote with huge huge letters 'THANK YOU'. Everyone was puzzled there...Huh? And when they read it, it turned out simple...She said, she just wanted to say 'thank you' , that thanks God, she was just so happy to have found that forum because she was on others and all of them seem to have immature staff, unfair mods, members, bashing each other and what not - its way too often to see so thats why she wanted to say an extra 'thanks' for being able to just to post and actually enjoy it as well.

I hope she will stay happy there. Its really refreshing to find such a forum, I agree.

Since I dont make any promo for my forum even tho I mention it I dont give the link here in my posts, but attentive people will find it :)

Oh and if you are like me, happened to 'be treated like that for no reason' ( you post good stuff, invest time and heart into it, then pooooofff, youre banned for no reason and you cant even delete your posts; its like you came as a guest to some people and brought some yummy food and they just pushed you behind the door and shut it in front of your puzzled face.) and you still want to post and ENJOY the forum, I dare say then, that youre welcome to join mine.

Anywhoo...I gotta go! See you around or not, just stay human. This is so important. Stay kind, nice and respectful, as you see, theres much sh** and shabbiness already in the world, that is, some forums...so lets not add to it, let them ban us, delete our posts if they feel like doing that even tho its unfair, karma is a boomerang , it will get back at everyone.

xx.

Why cant a forum moderation be fair and impartial and why cant we all leave in peace and happiness and mutual respect ?? Ahhhh those eternal questions....I still believe it can be done if people really want to. But not all want.